Male chastity is beautiful. In fact, there are few things I find in sexual relations more beautiful. A man that has had his genitals caged, and better still is serious about it, is a man I admire. Especially when the man cedes true control and hands the key to someone else.
Although this dynamic can play out between a man and any partner, I am particularly enamoured of how this plays out between a man and a female key holder. It is sexy. But it is also deeply spiritual. It is also a political act. All of these reasons make me love it.
But it isn’t for me. Why?
As a non-binary person, I look at my own appendage with disdain. I decry its tyranny. I don’t like it. And I don’t like being reminded of it. Chastity makes me think about it, makes it look bigger, makes it more prominent in my life, and that just upsets me.
Okay, I accept that it is there. I accept that I must use it from time to time. But the times I have touched it sexually in my life I can count on one hand. I can only recall masturbating with my hand twice in my entire life. I don’t like touching it. I don’t like being reminded of it.
When Mistress says it is hers, I love her for it. She may mean it differently, but to let her have it means I don’t need to think about it anymore, and thank goodness, because I don’t want to.
But I still love the narrative that chastity represents. Only I know that if I make the commitment to someone that involves being chaste, I can keep it. I am not weak. I have the self-discipline. I am not seduced by the weak male narrative that says I have to pleasure myself. No. I can wait. I can wait forever if I must.
Please don’t misunderstand; I love the big O. I love even more being aroused. Just drifting in a state of arousal is pretty wonderful.
If I must “lock it up” the way I do it is tucking. I love tucking. I love to not see it, to see it gone. The effect is the same.
But if a woman is interested in a chaste man, I have the self-control to be a chaste man, if only to please her.
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The only view on your body that matters is yours. But I want to tell you…I think you are perfect, my friend <3
That’s really sweet. Thank you. One of the unexpected pleasures of blogging has been “offline” chats that have emerged with kindred spirits. It seems that I am meeting other slaves, and I love it. To be united by something so special is really quite uncanny. I think that one day there should be a slave convention, just as Doms/Dommes have get togethers.
I feel the same, my friend! I am so grateful to be able to talk to others about these parts of myself. I considered many of my WP friends to be “real” friends, even if I don’t see them in my “real life”. Surely they know more about me than most <3
You are so sweet. I really appreciate this. Chastity is a wild one.
Oh, and if you aren’t following collaredmichael, he has an amazing blog about male chastity! He and I have been following each other’s blogs for about five years and I consider him a good friend here 🙂
Nevermind on this front… I just realized Michael’s blog has been taken down. I will try to reach him privately to see if he will be starting a different one….
I actually did look at the link, and had wanted to follow his blog, but as you say it is a dead link. Would be interested to hear more. One always wonders what happens to people when their platforms disappear…censorship, remorse, something else?
I spoke to a mutual friend and Michael is busy creating a new blog. I don’t know the story yet, but I am guessing (as he was a big fan of graphic images) that he was shut down due to violating WP policy. When/if he has a new blog, I will let you know. I think you would enjoy hearing about his journey in chastity.
I will look forward to reading it when he comes back. Chastity is a principle that I love, but the mechanics are very unappealing.
Thanks for the awesome read. I am going though self imposed chastity myself and am early on in my journey, i write about it near daily.