A few months ago, when I was convalescing post-surgery, I began to explore the possibilities of AI within kink. I shared recently one such interaction (generative AI on how to be a dominatrix), which I remain blown away by, the instructions from which I continue to follow. My explorations also got more specific.
I wrote about going to see a dominatrix/mommy who specialised in Adult Baby play. As a lifelong “little”, going to see her was going to be a treat. As I pursue being a dominatrix, I am also figuring out what kind of clients I want to work with, what kinds of kinks I will work with, and one of the avenues I realise that I have a natural affinity for are those which I share.
I want to work with Adult Babies. Who better to be a Mommy than someone who has craved and sought out experiences with a Mommy, who has spent years in therapy working on the lack of Mommy in my life, taught myself to be my own Mommy, and learned to articulate my need for Mommy to my partners without freaking them out?
My dear readers, this is a genuine question: do you think it is preposterous for me as a dominatrix to indulge in those kinks which I share? To even hide this aspect of me from clients? I am a switch, and what I don’t know is whether clients are “buying” this domina-only persona, or whether they would prefer knowing that I play both sides. What do you think my kinky friends?
[The same goes for this blog, which is a true reflection of the raucous and wild and divergent life experiences I have…but rather than setting up a distinct dominatrix blog, I am thinking that I will simply merge the two spheres…some clients are likely to read everything I have written, but most are more likely to just focus on the bits which interest them, the parts where I describe being a domme…at least I think so. What do you think?]
Well, as I gestated in that excited fugue which follows a confirmed booking with a provider and the eventual date, I began exploring with AI what it might be like to be a domme and to organise an adult-baby play scene. I was also puzzling over how we were going to spend 5 hours doing this and not get bored—I do worry about the strangest things! I am happy to report that in the event, 5 hours flew by before I knew it.
Working with AI requires skill in the query, or queries, and the refining of your query to get to the outcome you want, and this was no different. Several questions and refinements in, this is the response I received to my original question “Please help me design a three-hour play scene as a dominatrix with an adult baby client which covers all aspects of the planning, including before, during and after.”
Here is what she said:
Certainly! Designing a three-hour age regression scene involves careful planning to ensure its immersive, safe, and satisfying for your client. Here’s a structured outline for the scene:
Preparation Phase (30 minutes)
1. **Discuss Expectations and Boundaries**: Confirm the client’s interests, limits, and the safe word. Discuss specific activities they want or do not want to engage in.
2. **Environment Setup**: Prepare the space to resemble a nurturing, baby-friendly environment. This could include soft blankets, plush toys, and gentle lighting.
3. **Outfit and Accessories**: Help the client into their age-regressive outfit, such as a onesie or any other preferred baby attire, including a diaper if that’s part of their fantasy.
Immersion Phase (2 hours)
4. **Feeding**: Start with a nurturing feeding session using bottles or baby food, depending on the client’s preference.
5. **Play Time**: Engage in gentle play activities suited to their regressed age. This could include playing with soft toys, reading children’s books, or simple puzzles.
6. **Nurturing Interaction**: Include lots of comforting physical contact, like cuddling or patting, to reinforce the feeling of being cared for.
7. **Discipline and Rules**: If agreed upon, incorporate mild discipline related to the age play, like time-outs or firm, gentle scolding to correct “naughty” behavior.
8. **Nap Time**: Create a quiet time where the client can lie down with a blanket in a safe, comfortable space, simulating a nap time.
Cool Down Phase (30 minutes)
9. **Gradual Transition**: Slowly ease the client back to adulthood, helping them out of their role by engaging in normal conversation.
10. **Aftercare**: Discuss the session, allowing them to express how they felt and what they enjoyed. Provide comfort and reassurance to help them feel grounded.
11. **Feedback and Future Planning**: Ask for feedback on what they liked and what could be improved for future sessions. Discuss potential themes for next time. Each phase is designed to build trust and deepen the client’s immersion into their role. Make sure to continuously check in with them to ensure they are comfortable and enjoying the experience.
Would you like more specific suggestions or adjustments to this plan?
[I did. These additional queries were a reflection of my own needs and mental state. Do you know how we can live life with tears closer to the surface? How the emotional content of our lives is less hidden? Well, that is where I was at the time. The radical changes to my body, my train wreck divorce, the coming to a close of the most blissful envelope surrounding transition…these all contributed to this knowledge that if I got anywhere at all emotional in session, that I would cry. I like to warn a provider that this is possibly coming.
In the end, on this particular day, it did not come, but I was glad to have mentioned it. Separately, it came with my Queen. I had also warned her before we played, and for the first time since I have known her, and in three years of play, the tears came like a river, and nobody, and I mean nobody, ever received them with such elegance and grace. I can’t get over how someone who is half your size at certain moments can feel twice your size, but at the height of deeply felt and expressed emotion, when the dam bursts, and our limbs are like rubber and we become just a puddle, someone can really reach around you and scoop you up and hold you, and what it feels like physically is what it must be like in terms of our auras].
This is what my AI lover came back with in helping me as a domme to deal with a client who cries (aka me).
If your client expresses the desire to cry during a scene, it’s important to handle it with sensitivity and care:
1. Pre-Scene Discussion: Before the scene, discuss the possibility of emotional responses like crying. Ask about what they might need from you if they become emotional. Understanding their needs and expectations beforehand can help you respond appropriately.
2. Safe Words and Signals: Ensure that the client knows they can use safe words or signals to pause or stop the activity at any time. This gives them control over the situation and can provide comfort.
3. Provide Comfort and Reassurance: If crying occurs, provide comfort according to the agreed-upon boundaries and the nature of your scene. Gentle reassurance, a soothing tone of voice, and possibly physical comfort like a hug or holding their hand (if it’s within the boundaries of your session) can be very helpful.
4. Assess the Situation: Check in with them using your established safe words or signals. Ask if they want to continue, take a break, or end the session. Respect their decision and respond accordingly.
5. Aftercare: After the scene, provide ample aftercare. Discuss the emotional experience, offer comfort, and validate their feelings. Emotional releases, such as crying, can be cathartic and are a normal part of intense sessions for some people.
6. Follow-Up: Check in with them after a day or two to see how they are feeling. This helps in processing the experience and reinforces their emotional safety. Being prepared to handle such situations with empathy and professionalism will help in maintaining a safe and trusting relationship with your client.
Well, what do you think? Frankly I am totally blown away by these responses. How good and well thought through they are. But also, in the actual telling, they were exactly what happened. This was the arc of my play with the pro-Domme I went to see. I didn’t share any of that with her before, during, or after, but what is described is a blow-by-blow of what actually happened. And this is kind of mind-boggling, as I am not aware of any how-to guides out there for dommes to create scenes, not aware of any books already written on this topic. So, that means that AI has gathered what we all know is out there on the web, and crafted something so utterly adult, well-planned, and professional from what is likely to be just the opposite. Pretty amazing.
Dear readers, I would love to hear your thoughts about AI, kink, and what I I have shared here.
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