I have been waking up every day for some time thinking about the things that I am grateful for. Ironically, perhaps, at the urging of my wife. And I have been thinking quite a bit about how deeply grateful I am to one Pro-Domme in particular, whose presence in my life has changed me profoundly for the better. As I think back over the past year, one of the greatest motivators in my day-to-day has been a dominatrix.
While she has admonished me not to idolize people, groups of people, or any person, there is an aspect of what she has represented to me that I have found as a common thread in a clutch of pro-Dommes whose content I have enjoyed, some whom I have met with and who have helped me cope with and understand the feelings I have had as I took my first steps into the world of BDSM—and indeed I am still only at the beginning…and will surely have further occasions to meet with others for the same reasons.
I am not naming names today, though I have tagged those who have “helped” me either directly or indirectly. They all inspire in different ways. And I am not talking about the kinky parts of BDSM…I am talking about digging deep inside to be better people. And while it is surely true that there are plenty of people in this community, whether professional or not, who have questionable or unhealthy motivations, I have seen the cultivation of long-term D/s relationships here…and there is one aspect that I cherish above all:
To not be judged.
We come to this world with the pressure of social judgement on us, and share our deepest, darkest, blackest selves, those parts of us which we have often been shamed into hiding…and these women not only coax us to express them, but do so with openness, encouragement, warmth. And they do it with different people, with different needs, and they adapt to all of us. And it is so deeply healing. And fun.
And although I do not belong formally to “the community”, I do feel as if I have taken my first steps in that direction, and this is perhaps the thing I look forward to most of all. Mistress introduced me to another Dominatrix one day, and it was a very emotional experience. To be in the presence of someone who I am so grateful to, but to know that the other person could see me without judgement too…and to know that they both have several/many others like me who belong to them, and who find equal fulfilment. It is a beautiful world. And I cannot tell you how grateful I am to not only be not judged, but also deeply respectful for the life choices that these people have made, coping with stigma and discrimination to render to people like me one of the most deeply healing energies I have ever come across.
Happy Holidays Goddesses. May your days be filled with joy and blessings. And may the days ahead be enriching and fulfilling.
A Very Happy Slave.
Beyond Non-Binary 
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